Blues Notes

Repeat That, Please

There’s a classmate of mine who has a tendency to really speak her mind. Sometimes without thinking. On two occasions it has taken me a minute or two to absorb what the heck she is saying.

See this is the thing… She is white. She had a pretty lengthy relationship with a black man. From what I understand, that relationship did not end favorably. Because of that, she feels–or at least comes across that way–as though she is the authority on black men.

One day we were having a discussion about the Lifetime show Army Wives. On this particular episode, Roland, the only black guy on the show, cheated on his Army wife. So my classmate goes, “I was hoping Lifetime wouldn’t cast the typical black man.” Upon first hearing it, I agreed. After I got out of the car, it hit me…she was basically saying that it is typical for all black men to cheat. Not men in general, but black men. Nevermind the white couple who was having an affair. It was the network’s discretion to show a “typical” black man that was the problem for her.

The next occurrence was just the other day. I was talking about how I was looked at in a positive light by my guy friend because I am choosing to be celibate. Her response was, “You should know that black men…I’m assuming he’s black…loves to hear stuff like that. They love the challenge…hahaha.” Once again, it took a minute for me to gather that she was dissing my beloved black men.

Nevermind any of the white men that did her wrong. Maybe since I am black, she feels that I relate to what she went through. I’m sorry but I don’t. People will do you wrong no matter the race or gender. It is the quality of thatparticular person, not their color or gender.

Usually, I would have told this girl where to take it, get it again, and take it some more. However, I am learning not to act out of emotion. It has gotten me in trouble in the past. Plus, I doubt it would do any good in this situation.

What should I do?

Blessings & Prosperity!

This is Jewells signing out…

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